I want all my friends and family to go away....

moon · Joined: 05 Dec 2006 Posts: 32

does this mean I could have angoraphobia? I have a very strong desire to be alone. Please help me. I am totally confused.
Thanks in advance.

potor · Joined: 05 Dec 2006 Posts: 49

Not really, its just rather a feature of your personality... some people do like to be alone including myself. Sometimes people around me just make me angry, but to what extend you have agoraphobia will depend on what degree do you push yourselves to be alone? If you just 'like' to be alone and don’t really start getting messy or don’t feel comfortable when in company of others, than I don’t think you need to worry much. Also is this feeling always there or occasionally you just feel to be felt alone? Answer these questions and you would know where you stand...

mablisaki · Joined: 05 Dec 2006 Posts: 21

Hi there all,

Why do want them to all go away? That is the big question.

Agoraphobia doesn't have anything to do with having others around you. It is a form of anxiety that surfaces when go out into open spaces esp. with a lot of people around. I've had it for 8 years now.

But I'd give anything if all my old friends would come around here, and see me. They know where I live, I used to have great parties, and many friends, but I guess since I'm not out there, and they think I don't want to see them. I do occasionally call a few of them, and I can get out now some, like to hike etc. But have to have my meds for false courage, but they help me realize that when I'm out I won't get hurt. Mine was brought on by ptsd. And I know that I can heal with time.

How strong is your desire to be alone?
did something happen to make you feel this way recently , or have you always felt this way?
Do you fear social events? or just annoyed by other people in general?

I ask these questions to better understand, what could be causing this, and when.

moon · Joined: 05 Dec 2006 Posts: 32

I know what you all mean, I think. I'm more uncomfortable around strangers, but sometimes I get so "full up" of people that I even don't want to see friends or family either. I just feel like there's no time for myself, even though there is. Its never enough. I feel like its always someone wanting something, like people just never leave me alone.

pope · Joined: 05 Dec 2006 Posts: 36

lol its funny cause I feel the SAME WAY. Sometimes just hearing my brother's footsteps as he walks towards my room makes me cringe and I just wish I would be left alone by everyone. When you say you have no time for yourself, I can relate so much I feel like there is barely any time for me to think, before I know it the day is over and I haven't done a thing other than work, eat, sleep.

Every little task seems so daunting and I can't get myself to start anything, I'm a huge procrastinator.