Add And Socially Retarded

pope · Joined: 05 Dec 2006 Posts: 36

I’m having a hard time with social situations in real life and online it's like no matter what I do I end up ticking off someone not sure how common this is with people with add. This has just leaves more entitled to withdrawal or tick them off more so they won't hate me sort speak.
Not sure if this common with adders or just me either way I know I need to change this been trying to.
Any stories tips suggestions love to hear them

robin · Joined: 05 Dec 2006 Posts: 26

I was socially retarded growing up. I was the outcast. I stuck my foot in my mouth constantly and still occasionally do. I had a nasty habit of interrupting till a therapist taught me "1,2,3,ME". I didn't become socially ok till my mid-twenties. You are far from alone.

daley · Joined: 05 Dec 2006 Posts: 18

It goes with the territory, and it's not something to feel guilty about. It requires a lot of work, and a lot of conscious effort, neither of which come easy when you have ADD. The disorder really interferes with the brain-to-mouth filter, making you say the first thing that comes to mind (appropriate or not) and want to fill up empty space in conversations whether or not you have anything important to say. It's also hard because you may tend to take things at face value yourself, and not realize that you've offended or bothered someone because, well, if someone said that to you, it wouldn't mean anything. Gonzo is right - just give yourself a few moments before you open your mouth and think. You might need to practice thoughtful faces in the mirror, though, so people don't start talking and make you lose your train of thought - giving you even more opportunities to stick your foot in your mouth!